Lizzie Post’s Advice For Thank You Note Etiquette

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Etiquette maven and co-author of Wedding Etiquette, 6th EditionLizzie Post takes on the task of helping us write thank you notes! Follow her Q&A and learn her quick tricks for dividing up the list, when to send and whom to thank. 


Q. When you receive a gift, when should you send a thank you note?

A. As soon as possible! For wedding gifts, you should send a thank you within three months of the wedding. If you have been receiving gifts before your wedding, write a note as soon as you open the gift. It will be one less note to write after the wedding!

Don’t forget, your new spouse can be the person to also write thank you notes! An easy way to divide up the list is by whom the gift giver was invited by. If the gift came from someone my spouse invited, then he or she should write the thank you note. It makes it more personal that way.

Q. We know that thanking people isn’t limited to gift-givers. Who else should you remember to thank?
A. I think you should take the time to thank your bridal party for all of their contributions to your big day. It doesn’t have to be a note, it could be a phone call to let them know you appreciate them. I would continue that same sentiment to family members who are helping you with the wedding.

Q. Should couples invest in personalized stationery or are store-bought cards okay?
A. Store bought cards are fine; it’s really a matter of preference. I do think it’s nice to get something on more formal stationary, but it’s certainly not necessary. What you want to avoid is a generic printing that says, “thank you so much for the lovely gift” or something of that nature. Make sure it’s a heartfelt, handwritten thank you note.

Q. Any words of advice for writing the perfect note?
A. Three little sentences, a greeting, the thank you and a close.

Q. What’s the most common thank you note faux pas and how do you avoid it?
A. The most common mistake is that people forget to write them! Make sure you have plenty of stationary and stamps so it won’t slip your mind.


Need more advice? Pick up the 6th Edition of Wedding Etiquette by Anna Post and Lizzie Post. Be sure to check back in with us for more etiquette tips from Anna and Lizzie, too!

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Lindsay & Stephen’s Beachside Engagement

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Lindsay and Stephen both grew up vacationing on the coast. So, when it came to planning their beachside nuptials they chose WaterColor Inn & Resort to say “I do.” Since they were already planning their big day by the sea, they wanted their engagement shoot to capture some of their favorite spots along Florida’s 30A beaches. Photographer, Dear Wesleyann walked the couple through the beautiful streets of Alys Beach, took them on a tandem bike ride through Rosemary Beach, all with just enough time to catch the sunset.

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From the bride: We started our shoot with Wesleyann walking through the streets of Alys beach. All of the white architecture and greenery made for such a beautiful backdrop. We found an outdoor seating area on the beach side and popped some bubbly — as it also happened to be my birthday! Wesleyann made it so easy for us to just be ourselves and have fun. Her pictures capture that joy perfectly. 

Our next stop was in the town of Rosemary Beach, where Wesleyann somehow worked her magic to get a tandem bike for us to shoot on. It’s an understatement to say we had fun with that! We hurried down to the beach right as the sun was going down to take some sunset shots and we could not have asked for a more beautiful ending to the day.

Photography: Dear Wesleyann

Weekly Roundup: July 14th – July 19th

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We’re rounding up another week of great posts. Here’s what you may have missed:

Monday: Laura Hooper Calligraphy Giveaway!

Tuesday: DIY: Chalkboard Wine Tags

Wednesday: Gold Inspiration From Occasions Magazine

Thursday: Into The Wild: Animal Print Items For Your Registry

Friday: Julia & Jonathan’s DIY Block Island Wedding

Saturday: Find Your Style: Inspired Romantic

Photography: Katie Slater Photography, Julia & Jonathan’s DIY Block Island Wedding

Julia & Jonathan’s DIY Block Island Wedding

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According to their photographer Kate Slater, Julia and Jonathan one of their favorite couples of the year! “They win the award for cutest, most laid back, totally madly in love couple of the year — if there is such a thing.” We would have to say we whole-heartedly agree.

This wedding is filled with DIY touches made by the bride, brilliantly water coloring everything she could get her hands on, including her custom-made silk gown, which was lovingly created by her fashion designer mother, Kathryn Conover CoutureFrom the gorgeous seaside location and wildflowers to calligraphy and cake, this wedding has it all. 


Venue: Spring House Hotel | Venue Coordinator: Danielle M. Dziok, Spring House Hotel | Photography: Katie Slater Photography | Dress: Kathryn Conover Couture | Cake: Momofuku Milk Bar | Flowers: Blazing Star Farm | Invitations: Designed by Julia Wilde, Printed by Coeur Noir | Paper Goods: Designed by Julia Wilde

Into The Wild

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Let’s face it, exotic animal prints are here to stay. From the runway to the home, they have become a basic — like black, white and navy. Give in to the call to the wild and add some wildcat spots or zebra stripes to your registry. The best way to make this timeless trend work? Mix with classic designs and solids throughout your home.

Cheetah Printed Rug

Zebra Plates, Set of 4

Leopard Comforter & Sham

Zebra Napkins

Leopard Jacquard Bath Towels

Zebra Printed Rug

Gold Inspiration From Occasions Magazine

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Creative director, Mandy Kellogg Rye of Waiting of Martha along with a dream team of flowers, photography, hair and makeup created a series of looks for Occasions Magazine’s Colors of Summer. Her most recent color crush? Gold!


Written by Mandy Kellogg Rye of Waiting on Martha and republished for Have & Hold.

And gold this Sarah Seven dress was. With its ruffled sweetheart neck and layers of lace this gown was one you could easily put a bohemian spin on it like you see above, or dress completely up for a truly black tie affair.  It was to say the least, the perfect ending to one of my most memorable, and dare I say, favorite shoots I’ve styled to date.  One I couldn’t have pulled off without the amazing creative team of Rustic White, Munn Brothers Films, Lindsay Coletta Designs, and Jennifer C. Nieman.  I am truly honored to work amongst such talent on a regular basis.  So my Loves, that’s it.  The magazine is on the shelves and if you haven’t gotten it already, well what are you waiting for?!

Concept & Styling: Mandy Kellogg Rye of Waiting on Martha for Occasions Magazine

Photography: Rustic White

Cinematographer: Munn Brothers Films 

Flowers:  Lindsay Coletta Designs

Hair & Makeup: Jennifer C. Nieman

Venue:  Ambient Studios Plus 

Model: Danielle

Gown: Sarah Seven via The Sentimentalist

Jewelry: Carolee via  Bloomingdales Lenox 

Shoes: Stuart Weitzman via  Bloomingdales Lenox 

Hair Adornment: Twigs & Honey via The Sentimentalist